Hey friends how are you?
I hope you are totally fine. today I am writing this blog on what we can do when life pulls us down and how to manage ourselves in hard times. I know this may seem weird to you that I am writing about these topics on hashnode because here most of the people come to read/write blogs about tech and the development of the web and a lot of developers engage.
Apart from that tech, we all are humans we have feelings and we all have some hard times in our life so that is why we all need a break when things aren't going well.
So, we know that pain makes some of the world's greatest actors because they know which face to put on to hide it. As we go through life we accumulate more difficulties along the way. it's impossible not to feel jaded at times. And we may often find ourselves on the verge of giving up, but, Not all hope is lost.
Some points I would like to note down whenever I fall apart I'll notice these all :
Pain is temporary.
It will not realize in pain, but everything you're going through right now will pass. something like the heaviest rainstorms eventually find calm.
Whether you're going through a jobless, a breakup or the death of a loved one. things will slowly stabilize again you may not fully recover from traumatic events, depending on the severity of them, grieving isn't a linear process of getting out through it. Some days you may go back into the familiar darkness and wonder when things will stop feeling heavy, but no matter how will always be moments of light you'll find in between.
Sometimes, Pain doesn't listen to our cries for instant gratification. Instead, it asks for patience. The heart is a strange place. Just as much as it knows how to drown, it also knows how to recover.
Realize you can turn things around.
We don't get to choose where we came from, but we came from, but we can still manage to do things to take us where we want to be, if you find yourself in a dead-end job, and don't feel as passionate about what you're studying, know that the situation won't change unless you make one. Sometimes it may take more than a few tries until you feel satisfied but people are often scared to make changes because they are afraid of disappointing themselves if things don't work out. admitting it isn't easy we've become a world driven by results, more than giving ourselves credit for the risks we do take to better our lives. Don't focus so much on what may fall further apart. but rather, on what can dal into place.
Allow what you can't control to just be...
It's good to take responsibility for your actions and be proactive. this is how you can live an active, meaningful life when you strive for your goals and dreams, but it's important to recognize that there is only so much that we have control over. Instead of analyzing the things we think we can prevent, or taking extreme precautions to make sure something doesn't happen again, we should access what degree of control is healthy, there will always be some things, no matter how carefully we plan, that happen unexpectedly, and the only thing we can do is wait for it to out.
You're not alone.
When your problems feel unbearable, it's easy to become attached to them and focus only on your pain, but if you take a bit of good luck around, you'll come to realize that you're not alone. Someone else in this world is also still up at 3 AM because their thoughts are consuming them.
Someone else, just like you are trying hard to make it through another day without collapsing. People aren't robots.
That's why we face all the confusion and hurt, but also the happiness and victories for times we never thought we'd get through, but we did.
It's okay to break, Starting over is worth it.
You have to be in the right mindset to start over, and if you're not there yet, it's okay. Continue breaking until there's nothing left to break. but when the breaking gets old, a switch will turn on inside you and you'll want to get off the couch and face the world again. Things have a habit of coming around when you least expect it. These are the best coincidences that we have to run with when they show up.
Stay strong, everything will be good, open your eyes, life is amazing, enjoy it.
Thanks for your precious time.
Stay blessed.